I Wish Someone Told Me...

When I was growing up, I was a very innocent child. I was the kind of gal who automatically trusted everyone. It wasn't a bad thing since I always had someone there to watch over me and more or less make sure I don't get hurt. Whether it was my mother, my father, or my sister. Now that I'm older and I've been working with the general public, I have a much better understanding of how cruel the world can be. I have a good idea of how people can react negatively out of nowhere and spoil someone's day.

When you're in the workforce, I learned that there isn't too much you can do about it, and it's really best to more or less "kill them with kindness". It makes you look like the bigger person and makes your boss love you that much more. I survived the craziest work places between 2012-2014 and had very many learning experiences. Oddly, one of the main ones I learned was how to speak up for myself when I'm getting trampled on.

My biggest lesson that I learned in 2014 was about when to let go of negative people in my personal life. I wish someone had told me earlier that it's okay to take negative people out of your life. It's okay to shut the book on that page. To draw the line and value yourself more than this other person. To more or less accept that your path belongs separately from this person.

A discarded many people just before the holidays and even some during the holidays last year, and it was very healthy for me. It wasn't a cruel and random discard, every discard was done for a very good reason. I usually give people many chances. That's the kind of person I am because of my innocent and accepting upbringing. But with that acceptance, brought a lot of stress into my life. Some people I realized I just wouldn't miss.

The best part is, I don't regret crossing out a single person, because if any of those people were meant to be in my life, they will return via fate one way or another. This is something I had to figure out on my own. I was always under the impression that people have an open invitation to walk in and out of your life. I waited for them to be the ones to walk out of my life, I was never the one to say enough was enough. I wish someone told me it was okay to take control and decide who was worthy of me.

I know it may sound a little stuck-up saying things like this, but it's a truth that needs to be said. It's a power that we all have over our lives, and if used with careful though, it's not a bad power. It's a necessary one. It's very empowering.